Online Dating Pics… Yes or No?
When I decided to go online to find dates instead of hitting up the bars and malls, I was afraid to put my picture online with my profile. I know other people that are feel the same way but I don’t know why.
After 3 long months of looking through the profiles on several different online dating sites I was more than just disappointed because I had not received many responses and those were not hopefuls either.
Then I decided to go public with my Facebook community of family and friends. I polled them about using pictures online with my dating profile. I didn’t expect what I got back from them either. Over 80% of the responses made it clear that they would never, ever contact or answer someone on an online dating site without a posted picture. Over 70% of them even said that the looks weren’t really the true factor for dating them or not, but if there was no picture then they felt they could easily be deceived or the person is just so freaking ugly that they are afraid to post their picture. Now we all know that this is not really the case with people at all.
I digress, the results of my Facebook poll/ survey flabbergasted me. The answers I got from people made me go to my dating profiles and immediately update all of them with a picture. I resent messages w/ pics included this time to every man I had originally contacted with no response.
I could not believe it!
Within 3 days, 24 of the 28 I contacted actually responded to me. I mean, I spent 3 whole months contacting these men, finding what I considered to be all ‘hopeful’ compatible matches and go no where at all. Then in 3 days time, I get over an 80% response?
So, if anyone tells you that it really doesn’t matter if your picture is included in your online dating profile, then they just simply do not know what they are talking about. This is just some of the responses I got from my Facebook friends:
- “I don’t know about my fellow man, but if I am contacted and there is no pic, then I just assume that the chic is a freak of nature.” “Who doesn’t include their picture in today’s times?” — Adam
- “I just think you are hiding something or have drama- I don’t want no part of that!!” — Scott
- “If I don’t see a picture or they aren’t willing to send me a picture, then I am thinking that they aren’t as serious as they claim about finding quality. They are probably just looking for a good time.” — Anna
- “When I do my searches I click the box ‘pics included’ so if your picture isn’t on your profile, then I will not even see you at all. You wont even show up in my results.” —- Cynthia